Hm, hi anon~ c:
Do you mean like in school/in crowds? Like if someone is being shunned by everyone else, do I shun them as well? To be honest, I try not to. If I don’t know the person personally, I can’t really judge them based on how other people think of them. That’s kind of going on with two people at my school right now and my other friends. But I mean, subconsciously I do think I do push some people away despite my intentions. People can’t really help but be influenced by the, for lack of a better word, “mob.” I’m not saying I go around needlessly shunning people (because that’s just not right), but I can’t say I do anything to really stop it all the time either. Sometimes I do try and stick up for the person if it’s evident that he/she is just being shunned for no reason at all/or because of something that people sometimes discriminate against though, but more often I just try to hold my judgements to myself and not get involved unless one of the parties specifically involves me in the situation—which I try to avoid and/or brush off because I don’t like drama.
I can’t really remember any other instance in my life where this situation has happened, and with regards to the one that’s going on now, I don’t think I would have changed how I acted because I think I acted for the best—not getting involved in other people’s affairs. Of course I listen to what other people say about the matter, but I try to refrain from making personal judgements because, again, I don’t really know one of the sides. And, with the other person, he/she had personally offended me/insulted me, so I can’t really say I’m neutral but I believe I’m justified in trying not to get involved in that person anymore.
Eh, but I guess in conclusion, I’ll just say bullying/shunning people because the crowd does it is, in my opinion, wrong because your actions are unjustifiable; if however, the situation is different because the shunned party had offended those people/you, I think that you should just do your best to get out of the conflict :/ I don’t really like unnecessary drama, but I’m sure a lot of other people have different opinions about this matter.
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I mean, to be honest, I think it varies from person to person. I don’t really think that any of those traits has to be more dominant in one gender than the other :p. Everyone should have some intelligence, some humor, and definitely should have a personality. I don’t think I’ve ever met any person without any bit of those three traits. It also matters on what you think “intelligence” is…someone could be really bad at school but still be really good at something practical in life.
As for looks, a person could still be happy even if he/she isn’t necessarily the best looking person in the world. Sure, they would have to accept that though instead of wallowing (sorry, I like that verb). It’s tricky because it honestly depends on how the person thinks. I know plenty of people who don’t really (in my opinion) have the best features, but to other people, that person could be really good-looking. Every person is unique and no one is perfect. Wealth, well, it’s again kind of the same thing with looks…Sure, having money will get you a lot of things that people without money won’t be able to have, but there’s only so much that money can get you. It’s not necessarily the most important thing, but, in my opinion, it is helpful.
Anyways, all of the above was just my opinion, and other people may have other thoughts on your question. :p
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Like being left out? In general what I do is ignore it. I mean if the person/people are being obvious about it, then they probably have a good reason for not including me in whatever activity (but I’d probably call one of them later and ask him/her why I wasn’t invited or something). I’d also try to make sure I’m not exaggerating, and instead assume that maybe the person/people didn’t leave me out on purpose. If so, I just usually ask them if I could join them in whatever activity. I’ve found that communication really helps, haha. They might not be excluding you on purpose. You could try getting yourself more involved by inviting your friends out to a movie or planning a day out.
If you’re sure though that it’s like purposeful exclusion, find the reason why. Ask people, get different opinions, and try adjusting yourself. But I mean, if all that doesn’t work, I’d try distancing yourself for a while. Don’t change yourself completely for someone else, and please don’t think there’s anything wrong with yourself because someone doesn’t like being with you. Oftentimes, if you’re being left out by a group of “friends,” then they aren’t really the people you should want to spend time with. Try opening up and meeting new people with similar interests c’: You don’t always have to be with the same group of people all the time.
Sorry for the semi-long message. I hope this helps! Feel better.
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Please don’t bring up those people to me.
Hi Anon! Honestly, I do often think that way too. It’s almost like a self-pity, oppressive kind of feeling right? To me, it sometimes feels like someone is constantly choking me. Like they have their hands around my neck while they whisper things like: “who would want someone like you?” and “there’s nobody out there that would accept the real you” And then I would go on to list all the traits of mine that would cause someone to dislike me. It has gotten worse recently, for me, because I feel like I can’t trust anyone anymore, after some recent events, and that I really am alone. It’s a terrible feeling, really, and I’m truly sorry to hear that you feel that way too. So yea, to answer your question, I guess I do feel that way too. I’m not proud of it, or anything of the sort, but you’re definitely not the only one. I’m sure there are a lot of other people out there who have had some form of this insecurity as well. But I mean, this might sound cheesy, don’t be too hard on yourself. Everyone has his/her own flaws and imperfections. And just because you don’t believe that you don’t deserve anyone, doesn’t mean that other people think that too. You’re definitely good enough to be with whomever, and if that person doesn’t think that, well, boo him/her. They don’t deserve you then.
Anyways, sorry this turned into a log rant :/ I tend to do that, haha…but I hope I managed to answer your question in my crappy form of writing. I’m not very good at giving advice, but it made me happy that you thought to come to me c’: haha. Thank you. I hope you feel better.
Uhm. Probably. It depends how I would get up the building though…haha. If there were an elevator or stairs inside, sure. I would. …but if I had to like scale one of those ladders up the side of the building…well…I’m like really afraid of heights and my legs start unintentionally shaking when I do stuff like that…so I’m not sure if I would be even able to get up the building in that case, haha.
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Nope. The person I love has yet to appear in my life. haha c’: I did receive a flower from a friend though through this school event.
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ah Hi Anon!
I’m sorry. I’ve been having a pretty rough day (found some unpleasant things out). Maybe another time? :c Sorry again!
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o Hi Anon! ^^
If it was unintentional, I’d be devastated. If it was intentional, I’d kill him/her.
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